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Your e-mail sample is a better indicator of whether the other 24 hours. "Easy, as long as our bodies need, but no less important.
Some wires picky than others about your study notes thread. More annoying than anything new to wear to your event tomorrow, that's your line will not work with you to find something.
You have not fooled me, I now know how to knit something to wear tomorrow. This is only the creative side of us something fun and new for these events will come soon.
When I was younger, staying up all night was not a problem for me, but someday not too keen on night shift for what to wear in the morning, at least not as often as I did.
Planning, "some are usually able to get my goal time and date to get the right.
Research yarn, thread as a remedy for the rest of your new network to be high on your priorities. These wires do not fit your wardrobe needs events and the necessary treatment for new houses so excited to stop in your closet to find a thread. Want to be different from what they are, they do not change points (or attributes).
Think you should be united as the last network to the wire in the model, then you know what you are getting in advance. In this way, no problem with string, and sometimes in the last minute when you are ready to go or simply leave.
Occasionally, we have foolish wires. I call it a thread of old pipelines. I had only a small number of them over the years because they are very busy so in the exam if I know my ship's stores and their customers satisfied.
Particularly amusing was a dress that more and more into a rock during the day. Speaking a little wear to the office and then go to the dressing room to eat. It was a perfect example of such a cabinet to change without clothes. I was the only one I knew, and I thought it was funny. Needless to say, the world yarn production line.
I still have to wear in my closet today when I make a change, not change needed. Over the years, I know how long it takes my coat needs grow. It is still as much fun today as it was all those years ago. I think it is because it makes me laugh when I was a bit of humor "in my life.
I'm sure they have stories too! We go to collect them. The stories have the most beautiful knitted items from your work.
A family is basically any activity in which the vast majority of the ownership or control lies within the family. Involvement can bring the family in society for its complexity, because the line between business system is sometimes a fine line separated the family system. Sometimes these two positions overlap so much conflict.
Involve families with emotion, including relationship involves trust and love, of course, that the company has developed not through cool, affected to maximize profits from this risk.
Styles that are used in the family do not always fit the business situation. Belonging to the family of birth, while the membership should be in the company on investment and performance.
Families dealing with family issues at the head of the family, making decisions alone or in combination with other senior member of the family makes sense. The company has its own systems of communication methods and styles of conflict resolution means the resolution is complete.
The conflict between a family system
Conflicts arise when a family of system functions, merging the roles of the other, that each member of the family was actually a double system problems. The intersection of these two systems are really clear where conflicts of interest arise between family and business.
Most families on the objections as essential in all cases, but the company makes sense, the concerns are to ensure the families and business interests balanced to achieve maximum satisfaction for both systems and people involved. All too often the emotional attachment of family members will tend to processes to ensure the security of the company to secure its success, in order to maximize short.
For example, family members in positions of power, the set they have no experience or knowledge, just because they were related. When she got through the normal interview selection was not that position. This is clearly a case where family gatherings as a violation of the usual business standards, to ensure maximum revenues are running.
Specific problems of family
Very difficult to do business in better times. Family business brings its own problems, these problems have to be before someone intervenes clearly in the family, whether that person is a part of the family or a stranger. A family is from the same problems that any other activity in addition to other general or two, just because the family involved.
Some of the problems that most companies face are as follows:
Leadership. Who is the leader in the industry, to find that the final decision, and how the next generation does business.
Family harmony. What should be done to ensure that there be harmony in the family.
Heirs. Whoever is elected to succeed and manage a family and its current director retires or dies? Each family member is responsible for managing the family business must ensure that sound business management practices are exercised.
Commitment. Who should join the family business and under what conditions?
Racing company. What needs to happen to the employer in the family until now?
Unknown persons. How are the families not recruited and received executive, and what powers should not make decisions that go against the wishes of the family sector.
Indemnification. Family members should be paid for the work they are not qualified? If wages in the same breath with non-relatives with more experience and knowledge in a particular area?
Protection of the finances. Many parents keep their personal banking firm as a place where they do whatever they want. "Prime" The family needs to make wise decisions, even though it certainly does not guarantee popular with the family, capable of protecting the continued financial health of the company.
All problems should be checked in a family situation that the potential for conflicts of the family printing business can be very high. Way to defuse conflict and stress should be avoided in order to identify the problems of conflict and tension, so that these issues with the whole family.
Perhaps we have learned our skills in one to one. Perhaps we have our love relationships, our friendships and relationships improved. One family at a time - and we have improved our family relationships. But if we sit around the table or holiday fun at the wedding with our family, is an entirely different experience.
First, as we are with our families, we have to juggle between different accounts simultaneously. Our attention is divided at best, for many of us, our consciousness, we completely abandoned after the first big battle. We feel like we were surrounded, and we need to protect against malicious attacks. We often think that is produced is not an option. When we are cornered, we often think the only way we can survive is to fight our way back, people skills, damn it.
While most people assume that General Sherman called the Civil War, when he said: "War is hell", actually refers to a memorable Thanksgiving dinner, especially with his family. This also explains why he send his troops into battle without thinking, but the mention of cranberry sauce reduces him to tears.
So here are some important tips for surviving your next family celebration.
Tip # 1: Go easy on yourself!
Tip of survival is first and most important to remember that the navigation skills to survive family gatherings unique are a little 'practice sometimes, we can not all not of our family dynamic between the course salad, pumpkin pie In fact, we can the dynamics of our family ever -.. What is important that we accept that it is not necessary. it is our responsibility to solve our problems their families. We are only responsible for our answers to their problems. Our goal is to expand our security and obtain verification, focusing our consciousness, family event to survive relatively intact.
But while we keep our minds for our families takes practice! We should go easy on us. We respond as we want to answer. We can be incorporated into the old arguments. Whatever happens, we have to make it perfect. We do our best, and that's all we ever ask ourselves. And do not forget that our awareness that we even play the old pattern is a change in this pattern! As we develop our awareness, we can spend less time stuck in our old patterns. Over time, our ads will help us long-term changes in the patterns in permanent makeup.
Tip # 2: Just go to your family
This advice is just as important as easy on ourselves, but it's often a bit difficult to follow. In fact, we are willing to forgive our parents for everything. We must accept that the best they can at any time. We must begin to recognize and treat our families as people do not like a family. We need to start them for what they recognize, not only for what they are.
If we take the truth that our families to see varied personal aspects of All That "hug is, our relationship with our families dramatically. Our families are part of the powerful men who never meet in our lives. They tend also to show more accurate and powerful for us of course is why we are often so hard to love unconditionally and accept our family. to love our families, we must also be able to love and accept themselves.
However, we can unconditionally love our families, and still choose to sit and eat with them once a year.
Tip # 3: Use the bathroom as a retreat, if necessary
Our other reports, we can usually detect when we feel safe and move to a safe place so that you can solve the ego. Once you restore the balance, our account security, we are intimidated in a position to talk without feeling out again - in no danger of our partners return. If we feel confident in our family relationships, but many of us feel that we are committed to stay and fight. It is simply not the case.
If we recognize that we caused the feeling of a family member, we can choose a pretext to go to the toilet. The bathroom is a place where we can be sure that our privacy, we can stay there until we can do it. We can use the bathroom as a refuge, where we gather our bearings in our power, so we feel safe enough to return to battle. As one of our family members enough to know how long it must have spent in the bathroom refined comment, you can always say, an upset stomach or a weak bladder.
Tip No. 4: losing the battle to win the war
We must be clear about our objectives in terms of family ties. If our goal is to improve the relationship with our family, we must be prepared to stay focused on the big picture. The hardest lesson for many of us get the winner of the war, we need to fight, to lose. Our long term goal, he feels safer attacker in our family relationships. To achieve this goal, we must help our families feel safe and validated. Therefore we have to realize that our security and authentication requirements.
We often experience our families and competitive environment. Our old patterns tell us that a limited amount of security and authentication, and we have to compete with the rest of our family, our needs. We are an insult to snipe at each other, that we only trust the validity of the balance of our account balance is greater than all other accounts. Since we are with other people who receive approval and validation Deal, the more vulnerable we are. If a member responds to our family to feel for the disabled, we have not to defend ourselves. We are aware that this person must be validated, and we can confirm. Sometimes this means, they think that we are less successful, and very talented at everything that we really are.
We must be prepared for any claims that we are to losing the family needs. Our family can win on the argument that they can feel safe and validated. Until we forget that our security and authentication to create, and we do not know how to compete with our family, we are losing the argument, because it will help us win the war. We need to believe our families, that they quite rightly, the problem is, how clearly they are not really true.
We know the truth. That should be enough for us.
Tip 5: Always, Never, never
If we want to treat our families, as they are now, and we do not like them in the past, we eliminate three words have in our vocabulary: always, never, never. Glossary of "conversations" of the family, always, always, and never told them of a siren. Signal that an attack was launched and it's time to duck and cover. In particular, we think our favorite part of our family ties statements like: "Have you ever behave like that," 'If you ever supported me? " And "never gave any credit agreement." When we come to one of these words in a similar context is a red flag that we are focused on past and present. Even though our family used these words to us treat us like we do not like us.
Once we understand these words are used, we must stop. It is likely that our use of these words, our family feel secure legal. We are in a position to apologize for the use of these words, to recognize that we are fair. Something about the ongoing discussions led us to an unpleasant association. If necessary, we can formulate the statement so that it specifically for the present.
When we're on the wrong side of all time, never, never statements, we can choose to respond and not react. Middle of the family together is the wisest choice often change the leadership statement, perhaps in recognition of the training can be valid if part of the past used, and then the topic. When the debate was an old wound, to heal the wound is still there for us to better serve the most appropriate environment
The psychology of the family looks at how and why we have close family relationships and the dynamics of family interaction. The structure of families on anthropology, evolutionary biology, history and sociology of the family based systems the roots are, in these disciplines. However, the study will show us how to have the family structure of family systems developed over time, but can not say directly why family ties developed in the first place. Family ties are the child development and psychology and philosophy to offer, why the family is the foundation of our existence investigated. Family Research interdisciplinary approach is to focus on the human psyche, such as evolutionary biology sociology, philosophy, an important psychological component.
To begin to answer, such as family structures have evolved in the history of evolutionary anthropology, suggests that the family, albeit in different forms is the foundation of civilization. The first people who lived in caves and forests, or tribal groups formed quickly in order to protect themselves from wild animals. Anthropological search for the remains showed the life of primitive cavemen. Manual is one of the basic needs of human security, such as the establishment of a large family, the fall or perhaps to protect themselves from wild animals, to warn all other natural disasters in order to collect food and bring children into the community, almost, and modern society. Thus, the first family herds or tribes, and there were several generations of my family. Were large family size, so I think a whole forest of trees of various families. However, the tribal system for large communities are long and some wanted a different kind of human life, traveled to places where the community or tribe. Others may have only the disadvantages of life as a group impassable, and to consider the reasons, the envy of the potential partner, satisfaction, sharing of food, shelter, indifference to the rules of social life. Applicants freedom groups on social program began, more and more people to build their houses and the first human culture was so small, with many families, but large compared to today's nuclear family of the couple and their children. Basic human need for protection and security gave way to the needs of the most emotional love sharing with systems that have the family and the man an attachment and affection, as they were always rewarded with love's, love, or reinforces the promise of love.
People like us are born with some basic unit of sexuality and aggression, as proposed by Freud, but found the people that the sexual needs of her show just as an attachment and affection, loyalty, affection "These are often rewarded with ways to meet their needs measure aggressive. Here is how humans were the taste and emotions to positive development, ever so long, reinforced, until love is glorified is involved in the civil society of the family. Of course, love psychoanalysis offers is just icing on the real needs of our species of primeval, a fact that people have found love that always needs easier than reward indirect sexual needs immediately and then develop the positive feelings of love-conditioning as the basis for the family. experiments of psychologist BF Skinner is successful, that the behavior as a matter of course will be strengthened. Systems family built on a foundation of love, affection, loyalty, trust, leading to the psychology of security and the rule of necessity and is therefore an important part of family interactions.
The psychology of the family are divided into two branches -
The psychology of the family:
The psychology of the family can be understood in two directions, how and why family members have developed industry in some way. That early human tribes or groups are formed, why they suddenly left the nomadic life of the ranch to begin and in houses? When communities develop and why social rules that have helped protect the family unit? Since household size over time? What was to change with the family are met? This branch of psychology, family studies of social systems, political systems, culture and history of anthropology, evolutionary biology. This is the structure of the family, the family of the basic systems of the psychological basis for the development of the family. Here are the basics of the social psychology of group behavior and the formation of the group discussed the reasons for the creation of groups through cooperation (with other members) and identity (group), as found in the first person, and still the days. Kurt Lewin, Bruce Tuckman and Gustave Le Bon-known theory of group behavior in social psychology and studied the behavior of the group as a basis for social development. The formation of the family can be explained by Maslow, the needs of the family provides the basic safety and need for love in some cases, our needs for the country. Maslow discussed in another article. The basic unit of sexuality and aggression must come from the family attachment you love a Freudian explanation of family systems are met. Sartre's existentialism, which only says that the man was thrown into this world with an inherent sense of isolation could explain the need to overcome the loneliness. Group structure and group interaction are the ones told by various theories.
The psychology of family interactions / relationships
The second part was still on the family, the nuances of the basic psychological and emotional family members, their interactions and relationships, feelings of love and trust and the functions or the role of the family of the individual. This branch focuses on family relationships and the psychological basis of family emotional interaction and how it connected with the outside world. This branch studies also show how they affect our models of close family ties in our interactions to the outside world and how we conduct ourselves in the community, society and the world. This branch of psychology would say is also closely linked to questions of existentialism and phenomenology in philosophy, as related to the family, the husband did not feel isolated or alone in the world like an existentialist, but a feeling of belonging to people to develop the family, the first report to the outside world. The family is a board jump, the first phase, we begin our knowledge about the world. There is also an important part in the study of child development. In addition to the theories of Freud, Maslow, Levin, and Sartre, the theories of Erik Erikson, the stages of man from birth shows to death, why people connect, the dynamics of family relationships and interactions to explain. Eriksson at length in the article, but briefly the theory of Erikson goes through eight stages of psychosocial development of hope and full confidence of youth to despair in old age.
On the one hand, we investigate the change in family patterns, and in some cases, comparisons are in the humanities, such as families moved in different cultures, different models and structures. For example, large families are still in the East, although it still almost extinct in Western individualistic societies. Before prices fall drastically, people remain unmarried prefer, is the study of family structure and the gradual change will help us analyze and predict future patterns in the family. Family system slowly died out individual companies to reduce the number of components is to show within a family? Maybe in 100 years will be used as individualistic families a member of the world, and this can lead to further isolation, loneliness and the need to connect emotionally to see how people form large groups or herds or groups result renovate. It's only ultra-urban, technologically superior tribes, perhaps the space nomads, as we see herds or groups of foreign films about UFOs and alien culture. Foreigners are probably superior to us live or see UFOs are always in groups or herds, as you can see. Have you ever wondered why aliens are always in groups or herds? Maybe they have passed all stages of human evolution and are therefore more advanced than we are. The future is likely to withdraw to the formation of tribes, groups and communities in herds or small families. I do not claim to believe in UFOs and aliens, but it is possible and is based on speculation, but change the structure of family systems will also depend on how our need for emotional interactions and relationships change and evolve.
In addition to the theories of Maslow (security / love needs), Freud (base station), (loneliness) existentialism Levine (coach), the need for the family may be in the context of the psychology of the family to various human emotions, family situations, measure, and it is the development of children and adults into account the theories of Erikson (stages of life), Freud (about sexuality) and the strengthening of positive emotions
Family meetings can be a discussion group of events, feelings, changes, plans, intentions, rules, expectations, praise, support and the whole family to come and speak. Most importantly, the whole family sits together at the same time, referring to the meeting. You may find that hard soft to sit in this process, so that they can only be part of the session recorded. Or is it can best meet children to donate time to keep the kids in bed. Some young people, they fail time for their younger siblings, or family problems not directly debate to spend on their immediate needs context. But if you adopt as an integral part of your family to reduce the difficulties and obstacles in the course of time, as each child parents are realizing the benefits.
Benefits of family reunions
Reunion of families, by every child and every parent deals with the right emotions to enhance learning. It also gives families the opportunity to practice listening and speaking and the art of negotiation and resolution of conflict. But, the family firm evidence for the importance of the family and give each family member a chance to offer, or seek protection together.
When they get older, the children and young people learn that they are extremely difficult issues are hostile. Teach the parents and their children, important questions can offer solutions when appropriate opportunity to present.
Heather told me about some family reunions affected their ability to relate their parents.
Heather history:
Heather, 21, is a qualified nurse. She hopes to work in a Third World country and want to postpone marriage and children until she was older, "like maybe 30" (here I feel old). Heath grew up in a family with two parents, David stayed in the suite was half cut out of the house, she has a younger sister and brother.
Heather told me that her family always family events. She says she remembers her mother put a pencil and paper to keep on the table, her younger sister spent, while the others held their meetings, how proud they are that at the age of 6, she is old enough to participate fully in could, instead of boring the viewer, like her sister was three years old.
"We, the family met almost all our children had nothing happens otherwise, it is usually different than at the beginning of each school year and after Christmas, when these were the moments when our parent classes was recorded. We had them after the Table dropped. We do register, and we alternately opening the conference. When we were little, it mainly mum and dad to tell us what happened this week. I thought that I was not very spontaneous by nature, the I feel that I was helping run for my life. "
Heather was the tone and purpose of the meetings has changed, as she and her brother grew older.
"As we get started with the fee and would like to do things with our friends, we are negotiating to have a family as a place to make money and stop. My brother and I will try, for money or more after the start of the curfew to unite, but never worked for us. Mom and Dad had their rules and standards, and they fixed it. If we have problems with my uncle, we are family, we were able to get them to work through him. "(Dudu period of alcohol abuse that was a time of hardship for the whole family).
I asked Heather what the family.
"What I liked most was talking with my parents, as most of my friends. It's not very cool when it does, but because we know we bring the whole team relaxed problems-like atmosphere, we have used only to do it. Now I'm older I am, I believe that my family supports me a team, as I said earlier used. I think we are family informally, mainly through e-mail. one of us all be problems in our lives, and copy it to anyone. We get feedback and ideas to support each other. Most of my friends are kind of kinship and support exchanged with friends, but my family is still my number one to go when I need to talk. "
About a month after the interview, as Heather me and told me she thought about it and she realized that something they really like a family.
"We have our meetings as a form of advertising on the site. So if I get a good score in one of the subjects for my bad, my brother was really something exciting happening at school, we would say, and everyone clapped. I did it arrive at any moment, but in retrospect I can see how good I felt appreciated by my parents and siblings. remember brothers and sisters often about things that nice to each other when they are children, but the family gave us a chance to do together . I do not think most of my friends have this kind of official recognition of their families. "
Historically
You look through history, I noticed a prototype, which the family day was a famous, perhaps mythical, the Round Table of King Arthur's court of Camelot. I thought it would be a good example here, because basically, according to legend, the king took the Knights of the couple bickering (which is not known in the communication skills wanted each of the first to win) and gave them all sound alike in decisions to decide the empire, such as distributing resources. Dialogued and knights used to clarify verbal problem solving skills, different problems. Arthur, like a king, was the final arbiter in conflicts in which they could not reach an agreement, but it is how these family meetings where parents have the final word.
In any event, the Round Table was a major improvement in the style of the former Knights of conflict resolution, which was drawing swords, fight to the death, killing other opponents of the Brothers stormed castles. Pay for ordinary people is that they are not with a gallant charge of their environment they work to live for military service if they the next village that the knights and need the money before the war, invasion, could be used used for a minimum of social services are currently available (bridges, ships and what not).
The same process works in family gatherings. Instead of arguing things families individually, the majority of the family rules negotiated at a family gathering, when someone with an entrance at the same time. And if the whole family in deciding how to allocate family resources are involved, there is less chance of the claim in the future when people realize that the decision does not work so well in their favor.
When a group of noisy knights who are used to solve conflicts were with the sword, can learn to use this format solution, guess what your children learn the same way.
Family gathering skills
Family gatherings are vulnerable to fears and problems when you first start it. Children do not want to understand, children, adults take power game to try it, and everyone could mess on the agenda. It can also be difficult and disturb not the time with other activities. And if your children at different stages of maturity, it can be a challenge to all major routes, it must be kept carefully, as you progress to be found through the calendar.If you think you want to try, with family gatherings as a way to strengthen your family, these tips can be helpful for you.
o Has the same time and place it on reserve Schedule weekly or bi-weekly. To place and maintain functional, all family members must understand that their presence is necessary. Choose the evening, when other activities disturb or Holidays. If there are special programs on TV at the same time, they agree to take for later viewing.
o Enter the "General". Each participant. Everyone has to go. Nobody bothers. All positive. No teasing or intent is permitted.
o Start with an agenda issues. All I can say what you, what would he be able to be included as a formal agenda.
o Keep a record. Someone designated to keep notes. This could change weekly, or it can be assigned to a specific person. Every topic you read the results. This is useful later, when disagreement over what was said. Store the nuts in a baby book that is not used for other purposes.
o Start with a positive note. Start the meeting with each person says something positive happens in the week. Some families want to see every family member that something special was another family member, or want to be different, both personally and each family member tell the kindness they have experienced or done for them.
o Use the talking stick. A candle, or an empty toilet paper roll or fold, etc. can be used. The rule is that only someone who has the talking stick may speak and the others must wait for their train.
o Consider the attention span of people. Very young children or people with ADHD or learning difficulties can not sit for an extended period. Are pencils and paper, or drawing tools, clay or play, these families have fun with, while the others remain to questions. You will find that there are less than reliable and successful process.
o With the moderators. When the process first starts or when the children are very young, the parents will be moderate. This means that they are role models to prevent interference for negotiating skills, take notes, are making the agenda is another. Is as kids get older, or the family is used for this kind of meeting, another person can be assigned the role of moderator for a week.
o Turn off distractions. TV, radio or other audio / visual distraction must be turned off to meet family.
o Set the mood. Children often enjoy the ceremony to add events to consider in such a way to turn off the lights and sit by candlelight. Or provide for a clean desk, plates began to move, and there is plenty of room for elbows leaning, reaching, as you move the stick to talk. Alternatively, you should always consider showing a vase of fresh flowers or a plant, a symbol of beauty and health, at the hearing.
o You can snack on the table. Children and adolescents may be at a long table when you have a few snacks. Raw vegetables, cheese and vegetables, can help everyone, so that it focuses. If you have a family meeting right after lunch replace, the desert.
o Use the forum for private matters. If you have problems with your spouse or children who are really personal to that person, you keep it off the agenda. Appreciate no child or young person, that the subjects taken from the rest of the family. Curfew, allowances, generally, are perfect here. However, deciding what to do about twelve had just been caught shoplifting should be done privately (do not try to tell me I'm not the only one whose children slip from time to time).
o Use the forum's role modeling, and practice speaking and listening skills. This show is a great place for parents, children, how to talk and how to listen to each other. The rest of the week can be hectic and complicated things, but just like eating at Grandma's, a great place to practice good table manners family a great place to practice how to speak and hear.
o At the end of the ceremony. This is a prayer, or perhaps family members gather together and say "thank you" tune, or family member can thank others, listen and do. The ceremony itself is less important than what it represents, namely the meeting and the recognition to include the contributions.
Family meetings are to remain connected to mention a positive and effective way for families that all the weekly main source of care and support. These meetings are children and teenagers in the family to participate as partners in communication, in order to realize the significant contribution to the strength of the family.
The book begins with a quote from James Agee and Walker Evans: "The family needs to take care of itself, no mother or father, no shelter, no resources, no love, interest, service, support or comfort, so close you can happy or sad, what about all the family is for those who are outside of what the people inside, but, as I said, very lonely pull themselves homeless, designed around a fire in the cruelest times, so alone, and if it other families, each as an individual or less, no help or comfort and is also designed himself. "
Story of a family history of Bryce, Napier and Whitaker illustrate the basic dynamics of the structural imbalance of the system and how the child is a method to avoid the typical happy couples for marriage and family problems starting. , Fusion triangles, single family life cycle, family of origin issues, prejudices, reciprocity, and guilt are the hierarchy and the properties of living systems are among the concepts explained and illustrated by experiences in dealing with this family. David Carolyn, is a pair of unhappy parents of Claudia (PI), Laura, and Thursday the book well written, stop, hard to start as soon as you read.
Whitaker has been criticized in the field, because many people believe that he is not really a theory. It is assumed that only lead his charismatic personality, his treatment. I do not agree. I think that's enough to read his chapter in Handbook of Family Therapy (1981) and these concepts can be understood in a family witch hunt of the depth and breadth of his theory to see.
To examine in the book review services, better theoretical background and key concepts Whitaker. He began as a OB / GYN and had no psychiatric training. He was involved in the treatment of patients with schizophrenia, after the Second World War. Whitaker was interested in determining the understanding of the relationship distressed family background and whether the psychotic symptoms as severe as the patterns and beliefs, dysfunctional family could be increased.
From 1946 to 1955, he participated and Whitaker (1981) Treatment of schizophrenia with the type of aggressive treatment to play. In fact, the most influential Whitaker drive training clinic in which children learn, play therapy (Whitaker, 1981). Whitaker used different methods to learn of the scandal, too, "crazy" of the war, with a bottle of swing, all of them speak in his formative experiences to draw deeply.
At the same time developed these techniques, a kind of pyknolepsy, where he slept in a meeting has developed. He dreams of his relationship with the patient for treatment, and then his associations with the dream seat treatment (Whitaker, 1981). Show in defense of the unique techniques and Whitaker, that (p. 188) "any technique to use in self-development process of the analyst to the patient as a mediator, an analyst, the model is called the primary process."
In 1946, Whitaker moved (1981) at Emory, where he headed the department of psychiatry. It was here that his two friends treatment, in collaboration with Dr. Thomas Malone developed in 1964, David Keith Whitaker with a degree of MFT to develop a graduate of the University of Wisconsin School of Medicine Development Methodology symbolic -.. Experiential Education Students "... Take it all, what the patient said was true symbolic meaning" (Whitaker, 1981, p. '189) to be.
Whitaker (1981) defines health as "... a process to be continued" (p. '190). He stressed that the most important of a healthy family, "... an integrated sense of integrity ... a healthy family, a group or a group of fragmented frozen ... constructive and healthy family management of negative feedback is used strength and comfort. Handlers group includes persons "(p. '190). Whitaker also defines the healthy family "... a generation that is 3-4 ... Put an integrated longitudinal beam separation between the generations. Mom and Dad are not babies and children from their parents" (p. '190). Whitaker examined the degree of parents and children a strong desire to have access to support to external stakeholders. Families of origin in healthy families.
Is important, Whitaker tried to spontaneity of communication as a marker for healthy families. Healthy family, the whole country to accept the problems and the identification capabilities. Therefore, he stressed that healthy families greater freedom for the individual to himself. Whitaker (1981) states: "... families who do not actually normal stress" (p. '190).
Whitaker (1981) found that the fundamental characteristic of healthy families is the availability of "if" the structure, the various family members take on different roles at different times allows. Result of interaction and not rigidly defined roles. Past, present and future of culture and the needs of the family at some point: They are of different conditions, as defined. On the other hand, machine function and Whitaker families as "... characterized by a very limited sense of a whole" (p. '194). Lack of flexibility in times of change are secret communication, the intolerance of the conflict, lack of spontaneity, lack of empathy, guilt and scapegoat, the lack of playfulness and a sense of humor, a marker for healthy families and Whitaker, from the perspective.
Whitaker has a strong focus on the exchange of technical treatment. Family Crucible, for example, the witnesses and the reader Whitaker Napier to continually increase power. Whitaker and Napier techniques are described in the book designed to interfere directly in the rigid pattern of behavior. The exposure of the secret behavior is the efforts of the wrong family to keep in touch immersion true feelings into account. There are of crucial importance here and now family quality of the tools used symbolic, experiential education, Crucible, with a focus on creating and then turn around and the emotional dynamics vivo treatment session.
Napier and Whitaker Bryce insisted on presenting the whole family. In fact, Whitaker symbols - experimental therapy model is considered essential to begin the process of dealing with the family (Napier and Whitaker, 1978). Whitaker (1981) stated: "Our wish for the whole family, is the beginning of" our struggle for the building. "It starts with the first call" (p. '204). He notes that "... seriously, the process of treatment is not aimed at families with children" and "... the quality of experiential education family therapy requires the presence of children" (p. '205). Book by Napier and Whitaker (1978) often try to change the game drive, especially with Laura, Don Claudia. David's family members are invited to the meeting, Carolyn origin. Whitaker (1981) argues that the production of four generations to come for interviews, in order to fight "... helps to develop systems of great anxiety" (p. '204). Experience is the use of cognitive therapy Bryce family entertainment as the winner of growth is attributed to cognitive theory.
Napier and Whitaker (1978) describe the treatment as a symbol of sharing, a wedding professional. Early treatment of co-therapists involved to meet Bryce, decisions. Symbolically, they saw the family as a baby's first steps. How such a structure, the family is required, it follows that unilateral decisions to treat. According to Napier and Whitaker won the battle for control, care of children and parents to soften significantly. Middle of the Bryce family therapy, treatment decisions were more cooperative. Again, this process model, increasing differentiation of the family. As the treatment progressed, the therapist increasingly smaller role, as parents are proud of how the family was integrated Bryce change, regardless of the therapist to search. Whitaker (1981) made clear that the process of care (p. '107) "... with the kids and goes until late adolescence, where the initiative lies with the children, then responsibility for their lives start".
Through the whole book, he emphasized, implicitly and explicitly, that the development varies from self-therapist is the key to the success of treatment. Napier and Whitaker (1978) served as a grandparent, coach or substitute family Bryce further treatment. Themselves are the active forces for change. Instead of a blank screen, acted as allies of the family system. Especially at the beginning of Napier and Whitaker were teaching. Techniques are silence, fear, conflict and balance system used. They acted as a catalyst, which was held on the tacit and found at the scene, represented by the symbols in the family communication patterns. Preferred co-therapists, their subjective impressions.
Above all, he Napier and Whitaker (1978) had the courage to be yourself. They knew how the absurdities of life, and how to bring the most important impulses of people to meet. They believed in a strong healing power of the people, and more importantly, family. They insisted the family in connection with his nonsense, respect the game spontaneously from their own management models.
The reader will notice that the team symbolic - experiential education therapy through several stages. In the first part of the treatment, the struggle can the co-therapists structure. Intermediate phase, a team of parents working activators of stress, expander growth, fostering creativity. Towards the end of treatment, co-therapists to sit and watch, while maintaining independent functioning of the family. Whitaker (1981) states that "the order of attachment and detachment is important. It is a little" how to be with children. Father is angry with their children a minute, our love for others. We take the same stance with families "(p. '205). Therefore, the role of co-therapists in the treatment with Bryce family was dynamic.
She trained as a therapist or reader to believe that he inspired the treatment of Napier and Whitaker (1978) witchhunt genealogy offered. Self-disclosure, his creative play, stories, education, personal messages spontaneously, the use of metaphors, and his co parts of the therapist to work the environment through the generous use of their personal lives. Techniques developed to confusion about Claudia, the patient is identified to start the system off balance in a genuine dialogue between the spouses in a marriage between the generations of large families to open a user. It should be noted however, that non-technical, but a personal commitment that allows Napier and Whitaker (1978), has to do their best. And it shows how thoroughly symbolic (emotional) experience in treating families, illustrated by sharp learning the Bryce family. Why should this experience be created in the session. In order to reveal the hidden world beneath the surface of the world is the healing Bryce's family, for all families. Unique symbolic language in Bryce family system therapists were able to move, the family of the awareness level of the symbolic content.
Family Crucible, Napier (1978) describes the healing of family therapy from the perspective of Whitaker co-therapist. Courage to live absurdity, the courage to embrace each other, to share the point of free association and thoughts with families face. Courage to take part in family life or even invites them to share their lives with deep associations helps families cope with the primary process. In fact, the book argues that the power of the therapist is to treat important, so that the family met with the therapist is the most important remedy. The goal of psychotherapy with the Bryce family, like all families to provide therapeutic experiences the applications must be baked in an imbalance for the whole family. As Carolyn Whitaker says: "If you marry your husband and children divorce?" It acts as an agent of change. They do not care if the customer wants. And it is here that one recognizes that the success of psychotherapy, the analyst from the emotional maturity. Person of the analyst is the core of what is a good psychotherapy. As Whitaker says that the treatment the therapist is critical, vital, experiential education training analyst, his / her customers is to provide an experimental treatment. In short, this book easy to read, inspiring, helpful and deserves a central place in the library of every therapist.
One factor that leads to the conclusion that the trade union movement, with African American families is derived from the considerable amount of media campaign focused meetings an African American family reunions.
Concentrated current blockbuster film, Madea Family Reunion in social issues that African-American family only allows power through the installation of four generations of the family. If anything, then the controversy of the film quality of relationships, how to do family with strained relationships and problems in young people. Tyler Perry also popular with the award-winning actress Cicely Tyson and the world-famous philanthropist / poet and writer Maya Angelou and Blair Underwood, now in the mainstream of American entertainment industry, the problems of family life and family events of the union.
The hype factor: the media seems to surrender another hit top 10 based on a family of artists of color. One of the most popular songs of family events are as follows:
Ojay "family reunification". In "Love and Happiness", Green, Sly & The Family Stone "is a family affair," "We are Family" by Sister Sledge reached No. 2 in 1979, Lionel Richie recently winning album "Home" with 75 000 copies were sold in the first week. There are dozens of remixes and a line dance by black artists.
But the cause of the hype about a family reunion, celebrated by African Americans in the entertainment world in the last 30 years, there are other important reasons, which set fire to celebrate family ties.
Fact: There is a long family tradition dating from the early 1700 and went on a family pack, make the family sing and dance themes in American culture with the people who have emigrated. These include Russians, Jews, Africans, Indians and others such as Scottish and Irish.
In fact, it's not only the reunion a popular topic among the black artists, the family was the subject of Western pop music in Israel, since its inception in the music market. Topics for a family celebration of music, in most American cultures.
There is a growing sense sparking celebrations in conjunction with various themes, a farm tour festival of traditional genealogy. One of the factors is the ability of these tools with roots in the genealogy sites on the web. Internet has a lot to work with search engines the name of research, archives and libraries in order to deepen a novice genealogists Help / Amateurs and professionals than ever before to find historical treasures buried in use.
Many foreign governments, civilian programs are further collaboration between groups and individuals to help find long lost family. Council directives on family reunification are designed to support families who are separated from government, borders, and the social partners. Family reunification immigration programs have an important contribution to the family celebration sparks a late session.
Adoption agencies began working closely with research institutions to bring together widely scattered siblings and parents with adopted children. These associations often to see the desire to conduct the full range of grands, aunts, uncles, cousins together. Strong feelings that unites the family is usually not a deep longing for the unity of the family, the generations to celebrate the light.
These trends indicate that the pedigree of research policy, a foreign government a stronger influence their feelings of family unity day? Not necessarily. Education with great social events are considered. It should be noted, is the Family Reunion Institute at Temple University in Philadelphia, the Institute is unique in its kind in the country, are planning to serve as a resource for families and help meet and agree on the tradition of the Union.
Social level, the annual Tom Joyner Family Reunion is by none other than Uncle Ben's family sponsored, paid for ads. Current family celebration of the town union led Philadelphia Mayor W. Wilson Goode "Black Family Reunion Day" preach among the 200,000 people participated.
Ebony Black Family Reunion is the annual tour inspired black families to meet, "said Nicole Taylor is president. And other important events are the annual meetings of African American Cultural Family Festival 19th Annual Midwest Regional Black Family Reunion Celebration in Cincinnati, Ohio.
There is also a special family gathering growing family travel, cruises and packages from the best travel agency and hospitality, bound to keep the coals characterized.
However, we must recognize African-American Institute, together with other programs of social policy, foreign enterprises and significantly contributed to the popularity of the parties in non-traditional families, traditional meeting today. These contributions have resulted in a combined effect of social events to sound good, it seems to family gatherings to invite interest and grow.
There may be no way to escape the family ignore or alcohol. Most alcoholic behavior. So in the daily interactions of family life, his family deal with alcoholic behavior. This confuses you wildered, anger and fear. They act accordingly. Typical reactions are reduced drunk.
Certainly not in the family caused by alcoholism. But the family may provoke good intentions, they are still drinking alcohol in the act allows. They protect alcoholics, excuses, excuses to buy to cover. You can do the employer, an alcoholic is sick. Alcoholic actions are supposed to measure to increase the anxiety of the family.Jackson steps
Jackson describes the steps, when the family came to occur in an alcoholic with a lot. His first steps were family where to describe the husband and the father an alcoholic.Disclaimer: - early development of alcoholism are the occasional episodes of heavy drinking explained by both spouses. Drink because of concerns about drunkenness, nervousness, or a day, which is not surprising assuming that the incident is an isolated case, then no problem.
Attempts to solve the problem: - Here is the man admits that drinking is not normal, and try to stop the alcoholic, more cautious, or cut. Meanwhile, the man tries to hide the problem from the outside and a good front. Children may begin in the family, problems begin in response to pressure from the family.
Disorganization and chaos: - family and work is now divided. The husband can no longer pretend that everything good out of the crisis to crisis. Financial problems are common. The actual printing and maybe you ask your health, your husband probably outside help.
Restructuring, although the problem: - the ability to increase the resistance to be the husband. He or she gradually assumes the responsibility for the household. This may mean finding a job or take over the funds. The main purpose of the concentrated energy is no longer the spouse of the alcoholic form. Instead, her husband provides and promotes family life, in spite of his alcoholism.
