Kamis, 07 Juli 2011

The family needs to take care of it self


The book begins with a quote from James Agee and Walker Evans: "The family needs to take care of itself, no mother or father, no shelter, no resources, no love, interest, service, support or comfort, so close you can happy or sad, what about all the family is for those who are outside of what the people inside, but, as I said, very lonely pull themselves homeless, designed around a fire in the cruelest times, so alone, and if it other families, each as an individual or less, no help or comfort and is also designed himself. "
Story of a family history of Bryce, Napier and Whitaker illustrate the basic dynamics of the structural imbalance of the system and how the child is a method to avoid the typical happy couples for marriage and family problems starting. , Fusion triangles, single family life cycle, family of origin issues, prejudices, reciprocity, and guilt are the hierarchy and the properties of living systems are among the concepts explained and illustrated by experiences in dealing with this family. David Carolyn, is a pair of unhappy parents of Claudia (PI), Laura, and Thursday the book well written, stop, hard to start as soon as you read.
Whitaker has been criticized in the field, because many people believe that he is not really a theory. It is assumed that only lead his charismatic personality, his treatment. I do not agree. I think that's enough to read his chapter in Handbook of Family Therapy (1981) and these concepts can be understood in a family witch hunt of the depth and breadth of his theory to see.
To examine in the book review services, better theoretical background and key concepts Whitaker. He began as a OB / GYN and had no psychiatric training. He was involved in the treatment of patients with schizophrenia, after the Second World War. Whitaker was interested in determining the understanding of the relationship distressed family background and whether the psychotic symptoms as severe as the patterns and beliefs, dysfunctional family could be increased.
From 1946 to 1955, he participated and Whitaker (1981) Treatment of schizophrenia with the type of aggressive treatment to play. In fact, the most influential Whitaker drive training clinic in which children learn, play therapy (Whitaker, 1981). Whitaker used different methods to learn of the scandal, too, "crazy" of the war, with a bottle of swing, all of them speak in his formative experiences to draw deeply.
At the same time developed these techniques, a kind of pyknolepsy, where he slept in a meeting has developed. He dreams of his relationship with the patient for treatment, and then his associations with the dream seat treatment (Whitaker, 1981). Show in defense of the unique techniques and Whitaker, that (p. 188) "any technique to use in self-development process of the analyst to the patient as a mediator, an analyst, the model is called the primary process."
In 1946, Whitaker moved (1981) at Emory, where he headed the department of psychiatry. It was here that his two friends treatment, in collaboration with Dr. Thomas Malone developed in 1964, David Keith Whitaker with a degree of MFT to develop a graduate of the University of Wisconsin School of Medicine Development Methodology symbolic -.. Experiential Education Students "... Take it all, what the patient said was true symbolic meaning" (Whitaker, 1981, p. '189) to be.
Whitaker (1981) defines health as "... a process to be continued" (p. '190). He stressed that the most important of a healthy family, "... an integrated sense of integrity ... a healthy family, a group or a group of fragmented frozen ... constructive and healthy family management of negative feedback is used strength and comfort. Handlers group includes persons "(p. '190). Whitaker also defines the healthy family "... a generation that is 3-4 ... Put an integrated longitudinal beam separation between the generations. Mom and Dad are not babies and children from their parents" (p. '190). Whitaker examined the degree of parents and children a strong desire to have access to support to external stakeholders. Families of origin in healthy families.
Is important, Whitaker tried to spontaneity of communication as a marker for healthy families. Healthy family, the whole country to accept the problems and the identification capabilities. Therefore, he stressed that healthy families greater freedom for the individual to himself. Whitaker (1981) states: "... families who do not actually normal stress" (p. '190).
Whitaker (1981) found that the fundamental characteristic of healthy families is the availability of "if" the structure, the various family members take on different roles at different times allows. Result of interaction and not rigidly defined roles. Past, present and future of culture and the needs of the family at some point: They are of different conditions, as defined. On the other hand, machine function and Whitaker families as "... characterized by a very limited sense of a whole" (p. '194). Lack of flexibility in times of change are secret communication, the intolerance of the conflict, lack of spontaneity, lack of empathy, guilt and scapegoat, the lack of playfulness and a sense of humor, a marker for healthy families and Whitaker, from the perspective.
Whitaker has a strong focus on the exchange of technical treatment. Family Crucible, for example, the witnesses and the reader Whitaker Napier to continually increase power. Whitaker and Napier techniques are described in the book designed to interfere directly in the rigid pattern of behavior. The exposure of the secret behavior is the efforts of the wrong family to keep in touch immersion true feelings into account. There are of crucial importance here and now family quality of the tools used symbolic, experiential education, Crucible, with a focus on creating and then turn around and the emotional dynamics vivo treatment session.
Napier and Whitaker Bryce insisted on presenting the whole family. In fact, Whitaker symbols - experimental therapy model is considered essential to begin the process of dealing with the family (Napier and Whitaker, 1978). Whitaker (1981) stated: "Our wish for the whole family, is the beginning of" our struggle for the building. "It starts with the first call" (p. '204). He notes that "... seriously, the process of treatment is not aimed at families with children" and "... the quality of experiential education family therapy requires the presence of children" (p. '205). Book by Napier and Whitaker (1978) often try to change the game drive, especially with Laura, Don Claudia. David's family members are invited to the meeting, Carolyn origin. Whitaker (1981) argues that the production of four generations to come for interviews, in order to fight "... helps to develop systems of great anxiety" (p. '204). Experience is the use of cognitive therapy Bryce family entertainment as the winner of growth is attributed to cognitive theory.
Napier and Whitaker (1978) describe the treatment as a symbol of sharing, a wedding professional. Early treatment of co-therapists involved to meet Bryce, decisions. Symbolically, they saw the family as a baby's first steps. How such a structure, the family is required, it follows that unilateral decisions to treat. According to Napier and Whitaker won the battle for control, care of children and parents to soften significantly. Middle of the Bryce family therapy, treatment decisions were more cooperative. Again, this process model, increasing differentiation of the family. As the treatment progressed, the therapist increasingly smaller role, as parents are proud of how the family was integrated Bryce change, regardless of the therapist to search. Whitaker (1981) made clear that the process of care (p. '107) "... with the kids and goes until late adolescence, where the initiative lies with the children, then responsibility for their lives start".
Through the whole book, he emphasized, implicitly and explicitly, that the development varies from self-therapist is the key to the success of treatment. Napier and Whitaker (1978) served as a grandparent, coach or substitute family Bryce further treatment. Themselves are the active forces for change. Instead of a blank screen, acted as allies of the family system. Especially at the beginning of Napier and Whitaker were teaching. Techniques are silence, fear, conflict and balance system used. They acted as a catalyst, which was held on the tacit and found at the scene, represented by the symbols in the family communication patterns. Preferred co-therapists, their subjective impressions.
Above all, he Napier and Whitaker (1978) had the courage to be yourself. They knew how the absurdities of life, and how to bring the most important impulses of people to meet. They believed in a strong healing power of the people, and more importantly, family. They insisted the family in connection with his nonsense, respect the game spontaneously from their own management models.
The reader will notice that the team symbolic - experiential education therapy through several stages. In the first part of the treatment, the struggle can the co-therapists structure. Intermediate phase, a team of parents working activators of stress, expander growth, fostering creativity. Towards the end of treatment, co-therapists to sit and watch, while maintaining independent functioning of the family. Whitaker (1981) states that "the order of attachment and detachment is important. It is a little" how to be with children. Father is angry with their children a minute, our love for others. We take the same stance with families "(p. '205). Therefore, the role of co-therapists in the treatment with Bryce family was dynamic.
She trained as a therapist or reader to believe that he inspired the treatment of Napier and Whitaker (1978) witchhunt genealogy offered. Self-disclosure, his creative play, stories, education, personal messages spontaneously, the use of metaphors, and his co parts of the therapist to work the environment through the generous use of their personal lives. Techniques developed to confusion about Claudia, the patient is identified to start the system off balance in a genuine dialogue between the spouses in a marriage between the generations of large families to open a user. It should be noted however, that non-technical, but a personal commitment that allows Napier and Whitaker (1978), has to do their best. And it shows how thoroughly symbolic (emotional) experience in treating families, illustrated by sharp learning the Bryce family. Why should this experience be created in the session. In order to reveal the hidden world beneath the surface of the world is the healing Bryce's family, for all families. Unique symbolic language in Bryce family system therapists were able to move, the family of the awareness level of the symbolic content.
Family Crucible, Napier (1978) describes the healing of family therapy from the perspective of Whitaker co-therapist. Courage to live absurdity, the courage to embrace each other, to share the point of free association and thoughts with families face. Courage to take part in family life or even invites them to share their lives with deep associations helps families cope with the primary process. In fact, the book argues that the power of the therapist is to treat important, so that the family met with the therapist is the most important remedy. The goal of psychotherapy with the Bryce family, like all families to provide therapeutic experiences the applications must be baked in an imbalance for the whole family. As Carolyn Whitaker says: "If you marry your husband and children divorce?" It acts as an agent of change. They do not care if the customer wants. And it is here that one recognizes that the success of psychotherapy, the analyst from the emotional maturity. Person of the analyst is the core of what is a good psychotherapy. As Whitaker says that the treatment the therapist is critical, vital, experiential education training analyst, his / her customers is to provide an experimental treatment. In short, this book easy to read, inspiring, helpful and deserves a central place in the library of every therapist.

family reunions


One factor that leads to the conclusion that the trade union movement, with African American families is derived from the considerable amount of media campaign focused meetings an African American family reunions.
Concentrated current blockbuster film, Madea Family Reunion in social issues that African-American family only allows power through the installation of four generations of the family. If anything, then the controversy of the film quality of relationships, how to do family with strained relationships and problems in young people. Tyler Perry also popular with the award-winning actress Cicely Tyson and the world-famous philanthropist / poet and writer Maya Angelou and Blair Underwood, now in the mainstream of American entertainment industry, the problems of family life and family events of the union.
The hype factor: the media seems to surrender another hit top 10 based on a family of artists of color. One of the most popular songs of family events are as follows:
Ojay "family reunification". In "Love and Happiness", Green, Sly & The Family Stone "is a family affair," "We are Family" by Sister Sledge reached No. 2 in 1979, Lionel Richie recently winning album "Home" with 75 000 copies were sold in the first week. There are dozens of remixes and a line dance by black artists.
But the cause of the hype about a family reunion, celebrated by African Americans in the entertainment world in the last 30 years, there are other important reasons, which set fire to celebrate family ties.
Fact: There is a long family tradition dating from the early 1700 and went on a family pack, make the family sing and dance themes in American culture with the people who have emigrated. These include Russians, Jews, Africans, Indians and others such as Scottish and Irish.
In fact, it's not only the reunion a popular topic among the black artists, the family was the subject of Western pop music in Israel, since its inception in the music market. Topics for a family celebration of music, in most American cultures.
There is a growing sense sparking celebrations in conjunction with various themes, a farm tour festival of traditional genealogy. One of the factors is the ability of these tools with roots in the genealogy sites on the web. Internet has a lot to work with search engines the name of research, archives and libraries in order to deepen a novice genealogists Help / Amateurs and professionals than ever before to find historical treasures buried in use.
Many foreign governments, civilian programs are further collaboration between groups and individuals to help find long lost family. Council directives on family reunification are designed to support families who are separated from government, borders, and the social partners. Family reunification immigration programs have an important contribution to the family celebration sparks a late session.
Adoption agencies began working closely with research institutions to bring together widely scattered siblings and parents with adopted children. These associations often to see the desire to conduct the full range of grands, aunts, uncles, cousins ​​together. Strong feelings that unites the family is usually not a deep longing for the unity of the family, the generations to celebrate the light.
These trends indicate that the pedigree of research policy, a foreign government a stronger influence their feelings of family unity day? Not necessarily. Education with great social events are considered. It should be noted, is the Family Reunion Institute at Temple University in Philadelphia, the Institute is unique in its kind in the country, are planning to serve as a resource for families and help meet and agree on the tradition of the Union.
Social level, the annual Tom Joyner Family Reunion is by none other than Uncle Ben's family sponsored, paid for ads. Current family celebration of the town union led Philadelphia Mayor W. Wilson Goode "Black Family Reunion Day" preach among the 200,000 people participated.
Ebony Black Family Reunion is the annual tour inspired black families to meet, "said Nicole Taylor is president. And other important events are the annual meetings of African American Cultural Family Festival 19th Annual Midwest Regional Black Family Reunion Celebration in Cincinnati, Ohio.
There is also a special family gathering growing family travel, cruises and packages from the best travel agency and hospitality, bound to keep the coals characterized.
However, we must recognize African-American Institute, together with other programs of social policy, foreign enterprises and significantly contributed to the popularity of the parties in non-traditional families, traditional meeting today. These contributions have resulted in a combined effect of social events to sound good, it seems to family gatherings to invite interest and grow.

family


There may be no way to escape the family ignore or alcohol. Most alcoholic behavior. So in the daily interactions of family life, his family deal with alcoholic behavior. This confuses you wildered, anger and fear. They act accordingly. Typical reactions are reduced drunk.
Certainly not in the family caused by alcoholism. But the family may provoke good intentions, they are still drinking alcohol in the act allows. They protect alcoholics, excuses, excuses to buy to cover. You can do the employer, an alcoholic is sick. Alcoholic actions are supposed to measure to increase the anxiety of the family.Jackson steps
Jackson describes the steps, when the family came to occur in an alcoholic with a lot. His first steps were family where to describe the husband and the father an alcoholic.Disclaimer: - early development of alcoholism are the occasional episodes of heavy drinking explained by both spouses. Drink because of concerns about drunkenness, nervousness, or a day, which is not surprising assuming that the incident is an isolated case, then no problem.
Attempts to solve the problem: - Here is the man admits that drinking is not normal, and try to stop the alcoholic, more cautious, or cut. Meanwhile, the man tries to hide the problem from the outside and a good front. Children may begin in the family, problems begin in response to pressure from the family.
Disorganization and chaos: - family and work is now divided. The husband can no longer pretend that everything good out of the crisis to crisis. Financial problems are common. The actual printing and maybe you ask your health, your husband probably outside help.
Restructuring, although the problem: - the ability to increase the resistance to be the husband. He or she gradually assumes the responsibility for the household. This may mean finding a job or take over the funds. The main purpose of the concentrated energy is no longer the spouse of the alcoholic form. Instead, her husband provides and promotes family life, in spite of his alcoholism.

Jumat, 26 Februari 2010

PENGERTIAN DASA DARMA

PENGERTIAN DASA DARMA
Penjelasan Dasa Dharma yang berarti sepuluh tingkah laku, adalah saran untuk melaksanakan satya (janji, ikrar, ungkapan hati). Dengan demikan maka Dasa Dharma Pramuka, pertama-tama adalah ketentuan pengamalan dari Tri Satya dan kemudian dilengkapi dengan nilai-nilai luhur yang bermanfaat dalam tatan kehidupan.

Penjelasan masing-masing Dasa Dharma
1. Taqwa kepada Tuhan Yang Maha Esa
• Menjalankan ibadah sesuai dengan agama dan kepercayaan masing-masing
• Mengawali dan mengakhiri setiap kegiatan dengan do’a
• Menyelenggarakan peringatan-peringatan hari besar keagamaan
• Mennyelenggarakan certamah keagamaan
2. Cinta alam dan kasih sayang sesama manusia
• Menanamkan pengertian dan kesadaran lingkungan dalam setiap kegiatan kepramukaan
• Memupuk rasa toleransi dengan jalan menghormati dan menghargai orang lain meskipun tidak sebangsa dan seagama
• Apapun dan siapun yang kita kenal dan kita dekati lambat laun akan timbul rasa cinta kasih sayang dan rasa inilah yang dapat menggugah rasa dekat dengan al-khalik karena tidak terhalang dengan rasa benci, marah dan sifat yang tak terpuji.
3. Patriot yang sopan dan kesatria
• Membiasakan dan mendorong anggota Pramuka untuk:
- Menghormati dan memahami serta menghayati lambang Negara, Bendera Sang Merah Putih dan lagu kebangsaan Indonesia Raya
- Mencintai nilai-nilai bangsa Indonesia, seperti gotong royong, ramah tamah, religius, dll.
- Mencintai, menghayati dan mengamalkan Pancasila
• Mengutamakan kepentingan umum dari pada kepentingan pribadi, selalu membantu yang lemah dan yang benar
• Membiasakan diri untuk berani mengakui kesalahan dan membenarkan yang benar
• Hormat kepada orang tua, guru dan pemimpin
4. Patuh dan suka bermusyawarah
• Membiasakan diri untuk manepati janji, mematuhi peraturan baik yang ditetapkan di gugusdepan, peraturan RT/RK, kampung, sekolah maupun peraturan perundang-undangan. Misalnya setia mengikuti latihan, membayar iuran, mentaati lalulintas, dll.
• Belajar mendengar pendapat orang lain dan menghargai gagasan oranglain
• Membiasakan untuk merumuskan kesepakatan dengan memperhatikan kepentingan orang banyak.
• Membiasakan diri untuk bermusyawarah sebelum melaksanakan sesuatu kegiatan (misalnya akan berkemah, karyawisata dan lain-lain)
5. Rela menolong dan tabah
• Membiasakan diri untuk cepat menolong kecelakaan tanpa diminta
• Membantu menyeberangkan jalan untuk orang tua dan wanita
• Memberi tempat di tempat umum,kepada orang tua dan wanita
• Membiasakan secara bertahap untuk mengatasi masalah-maslah dalam kehidupan sehari-hari di rumah dan di masyarakat
6. Rajin, trampil dan gembira
• Membiasakan untuk menyusun jadwal kegiatan sehari-hari
• Mengatur kegiatan dengan menyesuaikan kegiatan-kegiatan di sekolah
• Menyelenggarakan diskusi-diskusi untuk belajar
- Mengolah pikiran
-Mengembangkan pendapat
• Memilih sesuatu jenis kemahiran/keahlian yang sesuai dengan bakat
• Mintalah tuntunan dari orang yang lebih berpengalaman
• Berusaha untuk bekerja dengan rencana
• Beryanyi dalam setiap melakukan usaha
7. Hemat, cermat dan bersahaja
• Menggunakan waktu dengan tepat
• Bertindak dengan teliti pada waktu yang tepat agar tidak dirusakan oleh keinginan jahat dari luar
• Sadar akan dirinya sebagai pribadi
• Berpakaian yang sederhana tanpa perhiasan yang berlebih lebihan
• Meneliti sebelum berbuat sesuatu agar terjadi ketetapan hati di dalam pelaksanaannya
8. Bertanggung jawab dan dapat dipercaya
• Berusaha untuk mengendalikan dan mengtur diri
• mentaati undang-undang dan peraturan pemerintah
• Belajar untuk meniai kenyataan, bukti dan kebearan sesuatu keterangan/ informasi
• Patuh dengan pertimbangan dan keyakinan
9. Bertanggung jawab dan dapat di percaya
• Selalu menjalankan tugas dan kewajiban dengan penuh rasa tanggung jawab
• Tidak akan mengelakan sesuatu tanggungjawab dengan sesuatu alasan yang dicari-cari
• Dapat di percaya atas kata-katanya, perbuatannya dan sebagainya, apa yang dikatakannya bukanlah suatu karangan yang dibuat-buat
• Dirumah, disekolah dan dimanapun juga dapat dipercaya bahwa tidak akan berbuat sesuatu yang tidak baik, meskipun tidak ada orang yang tahu atu mengaasinya
10. Suci dalam pikiran , perkataan dan perbuatan
• Selalu menyumbangkan pikiran yang baik,tidak berprasangka dan tidak boleh mempunyai sikap yang tercela dan selalu menghargai pemikiran-pemikiran orang lain. Sehingga timbul rasa saling harga menghargai seama manusia dalam kehidupan sehari-hari
• Selalu berhati-hati dan berusaha sekuat tenaga untuk mengendlikan diri terhadap ucapan dan menjauhkan diri dari perkataan-perkataan yang tidak pantas dan menimbulkan ketidak percayaan orang lain
• Seorang Pramuka akan manjadi contoh pribadi dalam segala tindak tanduk dan menjauhkan diri dari perbuatan-perbuatan yang jelek/melanggar menurut kehidupan masyarakat dan aturan agama

Rabu, 24 Februari 2010

hp matiiiiii

gara" ke km bawa hp,,,,,,
jatoh tu hp ke aer,,,,,,,
jadi nyesel..... tp kan ku cba bwt ngebetulin sendiri...
hehehehhehhehehhhehhehhehhehehhehhe............

Senin, 08 Februari 2010

waktu di sekolah

huuu.... tadi waktu di sekolah aku jadi petugas upacara,,,,
walaupun tanpa persiapan dan latihan aku bisa jalankan tugas itu....
bangganya diriku ini.....

Minggu, 07 Februari 2010

Kandungan Tri Satya

Didalam Tri Satya mengandung 6 kewajiban yaitu:
1. kewajiban terhadap Tuhan Yang Maha Esa
2. kewajiban terhadap Negara Kesatuan Republik Indonesia
3. kewajiban terhadap Pancasila
4. kewajiban terhadap Sesama Hidup
5. kewajiban terhadap Masyarakat
6. kewajiban terhadap Dasa Dharma

Minggu, 31 Januari 2010

Pengetahuan baru....

wah,,, hari ini menyenangkan banget...... td waktu SBH aq dapat materi" baru dari senior + td dapat materi dari dokter juga, tentang cara memeriksa gigi dan materi" yg berhubungan tentang gigi.... setelah diperiksa, ternyata gigi aq sehat n tak ada yg berlubang.... heheheheh
eh iya aq tadi juga materi tentang mitos" mengenai gigi, nih mitos yg tidak benar ittu:
1.cabut gigi atas berpengaruh pada mata
2.sisa akar tdk prlu di cabut
3.anak yg menghisap jari mnjd tongos
4.bau mulut terjadi krna gangguan pencernaan....
5.obat kumur penghilang rasa sakit.......
ittu adalah sebagian mitos" yang tidak benar ttng gigi.. hehe

Rabu, 27 Januari 2010

banyak tugasssss

wah,,,, akhir" nie gw bnyak bnget tgas dari  skolah gw nich,,
jd mumet akhu.......... tapi alhmdlilah tugas aq dapat selesai cepet,,,,
karena.... bokap aq dah pasang speedy.... enag jd na bisa ngerjain tugas di humz,,,,,,

Rabu, 20 Januari 2010

libur maning-libur maning

wah skolah koq libur truz zaw?????
kemarin hari selasa libur besok hari kamis juga libur,,,,
huft,,,, schol bayar koq libur truz zaw???
jadi gag dapet uang saku dech.....
hemb.....